Still here and hanging in there!

It has literally been months since I have put pen to paper. I often thought about it and even put it in my online calendar as part of my “to-do” list, but then like everything else, it went on the back burner. It was allocated to tomorrow and then next week and eventually it just never happened. I got into a habit of making excuses because I was just not “feeling it”.

A few weeks ago during my monthly video call check-in with some girlfriends, I was asked why they have not seen a blog or video from me in a while. They were being kind, as I know it has been more than a while! It is so far back that I myself would have to go and look it up! (Just did, it was 6 October 2020!!) I had to dig deep, allow myself to be vulnerable and just admit that I was not in a good space mentally. I reasoned that how could I, as a Life Coach, motivate others, if I could not even motivate myself? They completely understood, but their question left me “uncomfortable” and I promised that I would speak to my Mastermind Coaching Group about what I was experiencing.

Luckily for me this call was to happen the following week. Fast forward to that call. When it came to my turn as to what was happening in my space I told them about the conversation I had with my girlfriends a week earlier. It was exactly the encouragement which I had needed. The words were gentle, authentic and non judgmental, “Ophelia, by you sharing what you are experiencing makes you authentic. So many people are going through exactly what you are and we are sure that they could relate, for even though you are a Life Coach, you too are human”. Simple words of encouragement, but to me it was exactly what I needed to get back on track!

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Besides the lack of blogging and videos, I also wasn’t giving my attention to my coaching practice the way that I should have. It was as if all the wheels were slowly but surely coming off one by one. I put it down to trying to cope with the effects of COVID and just trying to keep my head above water.

This week started off better than it has in a long time! Work was busy and I was 100% “present”. I am going through a bit of a medical “challenge” at the moment, but I am under the care of a great surgeon with good results within a couple of days, so that has put me in a much better space emotionally, physically and mentally. Friends that are reading this, please do not ask. I will share what I am going through when I can laugh about it. Right now, me putting pen to paper about this is all I am comfortable doing. Thank you for your love and unspoken support and for respecting my boundaries.

Right, moving swiftly along. I also realized that when my desk is a mess, and my emails are not responded to and put in the various “folders”, me being unorganized in this way, spills over into the other areas of my life. So I went about those tasks and suddenly I felt motivated to start focusing on getting my life, my practice and that which I am most passionate about back on track. I knew it was time and that enough was enough.

I have also been listening to Dr De Martini podcasts and with each one I am “slapped” back to reality. I am in charge of my reality. I have to prioritize my life, stay focused and live according to my highest values. I have to walk the talk and not limp through life. I need to give myself permission to shine, not shrink. I can go on and on, but instead, I will encourage you to go and listen for yourselves. Who knows, you too might find much needed inspiration to get you “bitch slapped” back on track.

I do not know what lies ahead or when I will blog again, but I can promise you that the work on me will continue so that I can can live my inspired destiny and hopefully encourage you to do the same.

Until next time.

Light, love and positive thoughts

Ophelia