Wellness Checks

Day 20 and today I woke up with renewed determination to face the world! You are allowed a “wobble” and yesterday was mine, so today I chose to move on from that.

Whilst enjoying my cup of Java I was scrolling through Instagram and my eyes fell on a post of a fellow coach and friend talking about phoning a friend during lock-down. I thought, what a nice gesture! It also reminded me about a conversation I had with a friend on Sunday, whom called with the notion, either I picked up wanting to talk to her, or if I did not, I would ignore the call. Lets face it, it was not as if I could be out doing something important! This really resonated with me, since I initially missed her call, as my phone was on silent, but I did return her call!

So after seeing Candice’s post, I thought instead of trying to fill gaps of “quiet” moments with cleaning or baking, I was going to connect with friends, with whom I have not spoken to in a while. First up was my manager whose call I had to return. I really should remember to put the sound up in the morning! She had seen my post yesterday and could relate, as she was also having one of those days and thought she would rather call today. Then another work colleague had messaged me about something and I could have messaged back and I thought no, I am rather going to call instead, since it has been a while since I have chatted to her too. And so I started “re-connecting”, putting a “voice” to my connections.

I picked up from a voice note that a friend had sent last week, that she could probably do with a call. And so I proceeded through my list with my “wellness checks”, checking up on various friends with different “circumstances”. A mom with very busy children who is trying to entertain them whilst her husband is busy on conference calls, another living alone with no one around to talk to, another living in an apartment with a husband that works away and now suddenly there he is 24/7, my best friend whom lives in the UK, whom I have not spoken to in months, my sister whose call I also had to return and then a girlfriend whom I have not spoken to in more than 2 years video called me after I sent her a brief message.

All of these calls were so special in their different ways. They were exactly what the Doctor had ordered to lift my spirits and to face the rest of lock-down. After the way I felt yesterday, today I decided that I was going to “dress up and show up” not only for me, but also for those friendships which I might have been absent from for what ever reason.

You see, currently we are all in the same boat no matter where in the world we might be. The only difference is the pull of the current. For once, we can really relate to how the other person is feeling. We might have our waves at different times, but the waves are there and very real.

At the end of the day we all crave the human connection, but why is it that we have to go through a lock-down to “make time” for those people that means so much to us? Is this what the world has come to? Gosh, if you are not reaching out now that you actually have the time, then when? Thank heavens for fibre and modern technology, otherwise this would have been an expensive exercise!

With that said, I realize that I still have LOTS of wellness checks to make!

Until next time

Love, light and positive change

Ophelia